- My wife and I are 100% "A OKAY"
but we do have a friend that happens to be a female. her name is shannon, that is married, to a guy name "Bob". Well shannon and Bob started having some problems. These problems got to the point where Bob had to move out of the house and got an apartment, while Shannon is still living at the house that her and Bob bought. to give a time frame bob and shannon have been apart for about 6 weeks. Well i find out last night that due to Bob having a major attitude/anger problem that is getting worse by the day. due to this fact - shannon filed for a divorce, and now has a new boyfriend.
so here are my questions.
1) would you personally consider that cheating since she is still married to Bob, but keep in mind the divorce papers have been filled out - just waiting on Bob to sign them.
2) Shannon wants my wife and i to go on a double with her and her new boyfriend - but i really don't know that i should because she is still married to bob....06-03-09 09:48 AMLike 0 - its not cheating per say as they are breaking up and going through a divorce.. A lot of people here can't afford the divorce part and stay married but move on and get new boyfrinds/ girlfriends (but they can't marry) but that's pretty low no respect for the husband(even if there going through a divorce) but a new boyfriend should be the last thing she is thinking about and to ask to go double date like everythings fine... I wouldnt go
Posted from my CrackBerry at wapforums.crackberry.com06-03-09 09:59 AMLike 0 - I'm a family lawyer in the UK, and in English law until the decree absolute of divorce is received (the document that officially ends the marriage), any sexual relationship either party has with a person who isn't their spouse is considered adultery. Granted I don't know about the law in the US, but I would have thought it was similar.
In terms of the double date, I personally wouldn't go, I'd feel very uncomfortable with it all.
Posted from my CrackBerry at wapforums.crackberry.com06-03-09 10:45 AMLike 0 - Whoa, when it comes to rebounds and ricochets, DUCK!
Posted from my CrackBerry at wapforums.crackberry.com06-03-09 11:01 AMLike 0 - SevereDeceitSDShe could of at least waited till the divorce was final before going public with the new boyfriend, he's probably just the rebound guy anyway and won't be a keeper...06-03-09 11:08 AMLike 0
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My wife went to high school with Shannon, and became really close, then they (my wife and shannon) drifted away though college and as soon as college was done - they started hanging out again. and it's been non stop drama ever since with Bob and Shannon.06-03-09 11:33 AMLike 0 - Classic case of "the best way to get over one man, is to get under another one"
to each his own. if you feel uncomfortable, dont go. I doubt rebound guy will be around very long anywayLast edited by Mavis Fesselmeyer; 06-03-09 at 11:36 AM.
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truth is, this wreeks of an affair.Last edited by Mavis Fesselmeyer; 06-03-09 at 01:33 PM.
06-03-09 01:29 PMLike 0 - I suspect Bobs growing attitude/anger management problem could be in response to Shannons growing distance and carefully planned sabotage because she has feelings for the man she is bumping uglies with and wants out...but of course doesnt want to look like a hoor. Create conflict, then boo hoo about how you just cant get along and cant be married, and tie a big pretty pink bow around it.
truth is, this wreeks of an affair.
now how would she know if they like each other - if they hadn't been seeing each other.06-03-09 01:41 PMLike 0 - My wife and I are 100% "A OKAY"
but we do have a friend that happens to be a female. her name is shannon, that is married, to a guy name "Bob". Well shannon and Bob started having some problems. These problems got to the point where Bob had to move out of the house and got an apartment, while Shannon is still living at the house that her and Bob bought. to give a time frame bob and shannon have been apart for about 6 weeks. Well i find out last night that due to Bob having a major attitude/anger problem that is getting worse by the day. due to this fact - shannon filed for a divorce, and now has a new boyfriend.
so here are my questions.
1) would you personally consider that cheating since she is still married to Bob, but keep in mind the divorce papers have been filled out - just waiting on Bob to sign them.
2) Shannon wants my wife and i to go on a double with her and her new boyfriend - but i really don't know that i should because she is still married to bob....
And what a fine bit of role model work for the daughter to look up to...I wonder if at any time the Mom asked her kid to not say anything to Dad about her "friend"?Last edited by bumblesbounce; 06-03-09 at 02:12 PM.
06-03-09 01:56 PMLike 0 - You know what, this kinda does make since because last week she was asking me if i thought it was okay to go out on a date/see other guys, while her and tim were separated. and last night she said " he has a 4yr old daughter and 6yr old daughter and her daughter really like him and his two kids.
now how would she know if they like each other - if they hadn't been seeing each other.
(and yeah.....I have a feeling as time goes on and she gets sloppy in the info she discloses, you will be putting lots of 2 and 2s together)06-03-09 02:12 PMLike 0 -
if you want i'll send you my PIN and i can fill you in.
BTW she had one kid by Bob before they were dating, one after they got married, but she gave that one up to adoption.06-03-09 02:21 PMLike 0 -
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*head explodes*
I think at this point, the question is: how close of friends are you and "Bob"?
If it were me in your shoes, I would explain to my wife that due to the sketchy circumstances, I choose to distance myself from the situation for the time being. I absolutely would not allow this woman to drag me into this new drama-fest she has created.06-03-09 02:32 PMLike 0 -
She didn't give any kid up for adoption..they gave a kid up for adoption, right? Is there a more selfish act a "parent" can perform? It makes me sick...this idea of giving kids up for adoption is kind of a mind bender...I know I don't have the whole story as to why the child was given up...but from the thumbnail you've painted so far I would assume it was a convenience thing?
We all have to make decisions about what we expect from "friends"...I wouldn't be able to keep company with people who demonstrate this kind of behavior...I'm sure there are people who say the same about me, too.06-03-09 02:33 PMLike 0 - *head explodes*
I think at this point, the question is: how close of friends are you and "Bob"?
If it were me in your shoes, I would explain to my wife that due to the sketchy circumstances, I choose to distance myself from the situation for the time being. I absolutely would not allow this woman to drag me into this new drama-fest she has created.
i agree in fact when everything is going good Shannon is there to talk to if you want to talk to her, but when things are shady - she comes running to you. and we're (my wife and i) are the type not to turn anyone away due to one reason or another. in fact we've only told one person ,as a couple, not to bother us anymore.06-03-09 02:35 PMLike 0 -
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