- I have been taking road trips with this group of friends every summer (about 6 of them) for a few years. This year I was excluded and never invited. In fact I didn't even know that they were on a trip until they updated their facebook statuses.
Considering all the planning and coordination involved, I am pretty sure they didn't just simply forget to invite me.
My questions are:
1) Should I confront them or play dumb?
2) Should I even hang out with this group of friends anymore? I would think that by excluding someone deliberately is an obvious hint that they don't want that person in the group anymore. Would I appear clueless and stupid if I hang out with them again?
Thanks for all your wisdom and advice07-05-10 11:18 AMLike 0 - Confront has a tone of anger involved. Perhaps what ypu want to do is ask them why no one told you?
Posted from my CrackBerry at wapforums.crackberry.com07-05-10 05:25 PMLike 0 - Ok I asked one of the girls in the group.
My friend said it was thrown together quickly.But with hotel booking and coordinating each other's schedule, it definitely didn't happen spontaneously. In the past, they would plan the trips weeks ahead.
Then she said they only had one car. The one car explanation doesn't really make sense because they know I have a car as well.
So what now? Accept and believe it. Or accept and move on?
Thanks guys.07-06-10 12:33 AMLike 0 - Given the facts you gave us, I would simply:
Update my FB status stating my sentiments.
That may get through to them better than engaging them in person.07-06-10 02:23 AMLike 0 - Since there aren't enough people involved for it to have been a clerical error, I'll suggest the following two words: "Wood chipper".
Posted from my CrackBerry at wapforums.crackberry.com07-06-10 03:12 AMLike 0 - 07-06-10 12:10 PMLike 0
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friends, they should be able to communicate anything to eachother, no matter
how good or bad the situation is. Same goes for any type of relationship.07-06-10 12:47 PMLike 0 -
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- you two....with your drippiness and oooziness.....
OP: your friends suck. period. that was honestly just crappy. I'd be re-evaluating my friendships.07-06-10 01:33 PMLike 0 -
- calvinc,
Not knowing how often you talk with these friends, or what you might have said to any of them in passing about your schedules, for the time of the trip, it may be that they were under the impression you were busy.
Or it's possible due to things you may have said about your work schedule, not having a lot of spare money, the type of trip that was planned, that you would not have been interested. Or it's very possible that there may have been other people involved that you don't get along with, so to avoid conflict they decided to ask you next trip.
I have friends that would be bored out of their mind on a boat with everyone else fishing, or not even want to be on a boat that wasn't the size of Texas (yeah got a few friends like that)... So they would not have even be asked and I doubt if they would have felt slighted in the least. So next time you all get together, just ask if there are any other trips planned to at least confirm with you that you can or can't go.
Posted from my CrackBerry at wapforums.crackberry.comLast edited by BlkBear; 07-07-10 at 01:16 PM.
07-06-10 09:17 PMLike 0 -
1. If in fact the OP was purposely not invited, the "friends" may feel guilty or otherwise wish to avoid an uncomfortable conversation and invite the OP on the next trip.
2. If in fact the friends had other more legitimate reasons not to invite the OP (and by legitimate I mean something other than just because they didn't want OP around), the OP is likely to be invited on the next trip as well.
With my group of friends, I'd take it as a pretty clear hint I wasn't wanted around and maybe they aren't really my friends. However, you friends may be different. Either way, I would want to know.07-06-10 09:29 PMLike 0 - I'm not sure that will accomplish the desired result. Two different scenarios could bring about the same result:
1. If in fact the OP was purposely not invited, the "friends" may feel guilty or otherwise wish to avoid an uncomfortable conversation and invite the OP on the next trip.
2. If in fact the friends had other more legitimate reasons not to invite the OP (and by legitimate I mean something other than just because they didn't want OP around), the OP is likely to be invited on the next trip as well.
Personally it does not bug me if I don't get asked on trips. At least with my group of friends, cause the group is always doing thing together is many combinations and groupings based on the interests of those going.
Posted from my CrackBerry at wapforums.crackberry.com07-06-10 11:12 PMLike 0 - op should dress up in a bear outfit, break into his friends houses and violate them in their sleep.
THAT WILL SHOW THEM.07-07-10 06:49 AMLike 0 - Honestly, because i am in the same boat as you.... my wife and i are planning a trip in a few weeks with some friends of ours.....
people get invited for one reason and don't get invited for another.
we have a group of people, about 20, that hangs out frequently... and there are only 6 of us going on the trip... why am i not inviting the other 14... simple... i don't like them, and don't know them as well as the other 6. So with that being said.... you need to man up and be okay with the fact you weren't invited... it could of been something as simple as we forgot to ask you... or something serious like...i don't like you.... i mean there are people in this world i would cry at their funeral... but i'd die before i went on vacation with them.07-07-10 09:08 AMLike 0 -
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