I didn't realize until now, that I should have known someone else that had a BB phone, when it comes down to having people to add to your BB messenger....other than that you can't really use it right?
That is correct, the BBmessenger is only used for BB to BB. But there are a lot of good people from around the world here on this site that would be glade to have you on their messenger and talk with you.
If you work with 50 other people who have blackberrys, most of whom are in meetings at any given time of day, and you're way to cheap to buy unlimited text messaging (like me) BBmessenger is great, especially because you know when someone is typing a response, and many other great features.
