Sounds like you had a bad experience with SIP trunks southlander. Bummer. They are such an awesome facility for features and disaster recovery.But as you unfortunately found out, it's not about bandwidth at all (although you need enough for your total simultaneous conversation count), it's about the QUALITY of the connection to the ISP. I've met hundreds of misguided IT guys that think you can throw more bandwidth at the problem only to find out that VOIP still sucks. DUH!!!
If you have a 200k (yes k) connection with two calls on it, and that connection is pristine (no delay/jitter/packet loss) it will be perfect compared to a 5meg (yes meg) connection with two calls on it but having over 3% packet loss. Quality.
It's worth another try southlander. With the right connection you'll be better off.
:>)