Would you give a teenager a blackberry?
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You know those kids that are involved in cyber bullying or the kids that kill themselves or the kids that drink and drive or get pregnant or etc etc? Do you know what the parents say? They say I had no idea this stuff was going on and I wish I had been more active and paying attention to what my child was doing.
but that's the beauty of parenting. When you're a parent, you can let them go to parties without checking to make sure there's an adult present, you can let them message and text and not check them, you can completely trust that they'll never do anything wrong.09-06-10 03:43 PMLike 0 - Well, of course, if someone absolutely wants to get away with something, sure they can get away with it. But I'd rather know as a parent that I did everything possible to be proactive than just give my teenager a free run. I know that my daughter could use someone elses phone or that she can get a bathroom pass and engage in an orgy in the bathroom. However, a parent should monitor their children's activities. How awesome would it be if you had kids and they were getting drunk at a party and one of your kids was a daughter and was having sex at the party? And then they get in another drunk students care to get a ride home and they crash and die on teh way home. And all you had to do was pick up the phone and confirm that an adult would be present.
Also, a meteor could hit the Earth in the exact location your daughter happens to be unless you track her every move and warn her!
But, seriously, you can pick up the phone and check things without the spying.
Advancements have come a long way in the last 15-20 years. Abortion shouldn't even be allowed except in rape cases. You get pregnant...you're raising the baby. Nothing is foolproof. They certainly didn't have the morning after pill back then.
Here's food for thought. There's a town not too far from where I live. 12 years ago, the blood bank bus rolled up to take blood. When they tested the blood, 68% of the seniors had contracted HIV. I don't see a lot of safe sex happening there. And it's not this is just a weird coincidence of unprotected sex happening in Oklahoma.
...In fact, since your teenagers know you go through their phones, they're likely to just delete inappropriate texts periodically or simply just do things in real life which your phone tapping won't detect.Last edited by IAmBBJosh; 09-06-10 at 03:45 PM.
09-06-10 03:43 PMLike 0 -
Parents wonder why their kids go crazy, sneak around, and get in a bunch of trouble whenever they have the opportunity when they were suffocated their whole lives.
Am I bit more protective than some parents? Maybe. But I'm also around teenagers every day all day and I hear the stories. And these are good kids and they're still making bad choices. We're talking students involved in athletics and academics where a 3.5 is a bad GPA and their classmates make fun of them for not achieving higher. These are kids from affluent neighborhoods with upstanding parents in the community. Kids that go to church and are involved in community projects. And they're still making bad choices. They're being teenagers. You don't hold that against them. A parent has to realize that teenagers are going to be curious and want to do what their friends are doing and they want freedom.
But parents have to be on their toes. We've been there before. We've gotten in trouble for the same things. We've felt the same way. There's really not much new under the sun.09-06-10 03:54 PMLike 0 -
But, seriously, you can pick up the phone and check things without the spying.
If we're talking about teenagers today, though, that's irrelevant, as are your personal opinions on abortion.
I don't disagree that teens need to be educated on the importance of safe sex, but that still isn't an excuse for phone monitoring.
...In fact, since your teenagers know you go through their phones, they're likely to just delete inappropriate texts periodically or simply just do things in real life which your phone tapping won't detect.Last edited by kilted_thrower; 09-06-10 at 04:07 PM.
09-06-10 04:04 PMLike 0 - You seem to be under the impression that if you don't monitor their every move, **** will freeze and the sky will fall in. Me and other members have already explained that this simply isn't how it works.
I'm not constantly monitored, and I'm not even gifted and talented or any such rubbish, but I don't steal cars or get drunk every night. Go figure, eh?
I really will stop posting in this thread now, it's going around in circles, you're not really listening, and I gotta buy a memory card and headphone adapter for my BlackBerry which is arriving soon.09-06-10 04:13 PMLike 0 - You seem to be under the impression that if you don't monitor their every move, **** will freeze and the sky will fall in. Me and other members have already explained that this simply isn't how it works.
I'm not constantly monitored, and I'm not even gifted and talented or any such rubbish, but I don't steal cars or get drunk every night. Go figure, eh?
I really will stop posting in this thread now, it's going around in circles, you're not really listening, and I gotta buy a memory card and headphone adapter for my BlackBerry which is arriving soon.
I just took off my belt and asked my daughters if they felt I monitored their every move. They very quickly said "No!" JK
I can see how it looks like I'm over bearing and monitor their every move. I don't. I can assure you they're not sheltered. They play sports, go to church, go to friends to spend the night, go to parties, school dances, have friends over, etc etc One daughter is on facebook, the other is listening to her ipod and texting. I'm not looking over their shoulders. The beauty of them knowing that I will ask at any time to look at their phones is usually enough to assure I don't have to.
But, hey, we can agree to disagree.
I promise they're not abused, they're well taken care of, and they feel very loved. I'm just a nosy parent. I know you and a few others think I'm an evil parent for checking and monitoring them. But I certainly don't judge how other parents raise their children. We all have our own parenting style.
Sooooo...ummmm...now back to should a teenager get a blackberry.09-06-10 04:25 PMLike 0 - Ok, anyway I read back that someone said that they can use the BESX from the computer to monitor whats being sent to the phone. Just wondering if that was true. Didnt mean for this to turn into a big debate. I just asked her if she wanted a BB and she said no, so it doesn't matter anyway. I will do anything to make sure my little sister is safe and yes I do talk to her about right and wrong but we all know that kids will still do what they want. All we can do is hope they take our advice and make the right decisions.09-06-10 04:43 PMLike 0
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Some kids aren't responsible enough, but my Son is responsible and puts his device to good use. Not to mention how it helps us stay close by always being in touch. I plan to get one for my daughter when she starts High School next year as well.
Posted from my CrackBerry at wapforums.crackberry.com09-06-10 05:29 PMLike 0 - I don't think it's wasted at all. Majority of teens either use blackberry or iphone now. So long as they're responsible with it then it's no different from having a laptop or any other item to a similar effect.09-07-10 03:57 AMLike 0
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Posted from my CrackBerry at wapforums.crackberry.com09-07-10 08:39 AMLike 0 -
Posted from my CrackBerry at wapforums.crackberry.com09-07-10 08:43 AMLike 0 - Well this threads gone flat so another question on the topic.
Two of my friends have just got iphone 4's no one says a thing, but my 3 month blackberry still gets the "how come youve got a blackberry treatment.
Do you think blakcberrys are more exclusive compared to iphones ?09-20-10 10:35 AMLike 0 - I wouldn't say exclusive... A lot of my droid/iphone friends say the samething to me and their main response is Blackberry is so old fashioned and outdated, but that doesn't stop them from asking about it or wanting to play with it.
I had to pick my friends kid up from elementary school one day and I swear I saw kids with iphones and blackberries! I would never trust a kid with a 500$ phone no matter what sort of deal I got for it.09-20-10 11:04 AMLike 0 - No TV's, computers, phones, mobile phones, or ipod touch like devices allowed in my girls bedrooms period. They are 14 and 13 now. I'm not sure at what age I'll let them have the stuff in their rooms.09-20-10 11:35 AMLike 0
- I guess it's a good thing nobody really cares what phones we use here in Singapore. Instead of bashing other devices, we tell our friends the shortcomings of our own phones and advise them accordingly. Love it here.
Anyway, I was taking a train and I saw two little boys - around 8 to 10-years-old - carrying an iPhone 3GS and iPhone 4. When I first saw one of them I thought it belonged to their dad who was trailing behind. Then I saw both, each holding one in their hand, and I was like .Last edited by Derwent Graphite; 09-20-10 at 12:27 PM.
09-20-10 11:38 AMLike 0 - 2 words. parental control.
it doesn't really matter if your 13 yr old has a motorola razor or a blackberry curve or torch.. they can still do "sexting"
Good parenting.. and common sense from the teenager goes a long long way09-20-10 12:03 PMLike 0 - i personally think it is upto each parent which phone there child uses i have a 6 year old daughter and a 6 year old step daughter..
when then time comes if they want a blackberry then ok they can have one but like alot of people on here it will be monitered teenagers are so obsessed with sex these days it scares me09-22-10 06:58 AMLike 0 - i personally think it is upto each parent which phone there child uses i have a 6 year old daughter and a 6 year old step daughter..
when then time comes if they want a blackberry then ok they can have one but like alot of people on here it will be monitered teenagers are so obsessed with sex these days it scares me
In reading some of the replies here, some of you guys sound like odd/naive/out of touch parents.09-22-10 09:02 AMLike 0 - If they can't pay for the data plan or afford to get a new one if they break it than no.... but if they are responsible and are careful than i guess it's ok... i stll feel that all this technology being available tweens and teens is making their generation lack communication skills and is a big problem!09-22-10 09:27 AMLike 0
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