Sync WMP directly with 9530, without installing anything other than DM?

So after I updated my BB to OS 5 and it rebooted, Windows popped up a message asking me if I wanted to sync with WMP, view folders, eta. I thought "oh, coll; I don't need any other software" I've successfully managed to copy all my music, but I waited on the movies because WMP had to re-encode them first.
I figured that tonight I would try to get five or so movies on, but WMP won't recognize that my BlackBerry is not plugged in! The only times that the sync options dialouge came up was when I updated something and BDM initated a reset, which wipes all of my settings!\is there a way to sync my movies without wiping my settings?

fiddling with the mass storage and mtp options do nothing, and roxio freezes my computer.

ug, I can't even connect by BDM now.