You must connect your BB to your computer, as usb device. If you are on windows 7 your phone will be detected as two devices, your memory card and your device memory. Your music should be located in Blackberry/music or Blackberry /Music/Music Sync depending if you used a program ( Media Monkey ) to put music on your BB
Hope that helps
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