BBM>bbmenu>my profile, change your pic... In the case of your friends, if they don't have a pic, then you'll have to assign one if you want... But just to make sure you aren't blocking it BBM>bbmenu>options then scroll down to verify that "replace X pic with Y pic" is not selected and see if that helps...
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