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09-29-2009, 11:20 PM
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my gf is trying to find the easiest way to tell her parents she wants to move out and move in with me. any suggestions on how to do it? thanks.
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First question is, how old is she? How long have you been dating? How well do her parents know you?
I really don't know the answer, but some extra info might help others help you. 
That said, as long as she's 18 or over it's her business. Surely she won't want to pi$$ them off, but I think the best way to avoid that is to keep open communication.
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09-29-2009, 11:56 PM
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Originally Posted by ChuckH0308  First question is, how old is she? How long have you been dating? How well do her parents know you?
I really don't know the answer, but some extra info might help others help you.
That said, as long as she's 18 or over it's her business. Surely she won't want to pi$$ them off, but I think the best way to avoid that is to keep open communication. | She is a little over 19. We've been dating almost a year and her parents know me pretty well. And she would be living on campus at school which is 10 minutes away from her parents house.
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Be as straight forward as possible.
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Think about it well, its a big step... take your time to read on it, and talk to her about it! In the end it is your guys' decision... and no one elses!!! If you wanna know how I did it.. or how it ended either.. 5 years later... BBM me! :P Cons of cohabitation Pros of cohabitation before marriage
(if you want more info I can recomend a couple of books... I'm a marriage and family therapist...)
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09-30-2009, 01:44 AM
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Originally Posted by MizzDimpl3z Think about it well, its a big step... take your time to read on it, and talk to her about it! In the end it is your guys' decision... and no one elses!!! If you wanna know how I did it.. or how it ended either.. 5 years later... BBM me! :P Cons of cohabitation Pros of cohabitation before marriage
(if you want more info I can recomend a couple of books... I'm a marriage and family therapist...) | Thank you, I will read it. You said family therapist? My family is going thru some tough stuff right now. Mainly my mom...we think it's midlife crisis, but idk...
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Just be straightforward and say she wants to move out. I hear the old saying is most people fail anyways and end up coming back home (i moved out when i was 19 myself, 21 now although im doing well enough and havent had to go back home lol).
Going to be very blunt here. If she has a good thing going at home, i dont see a reason to move out YET, my girl doesn't stay with me because i dont think she can handle being on her own, plus she doesnt have a job either. (her excuse is she is full time enrolled in school, but i have 18 credit hours to her 12 and i work as well, so yeah) and if she is going to stay with me she is gonna have to front some bills.
I let my girl stay a couple of nights during the week when im not swamped but she doesnt live there with me, if you've done that and your down with it and ready to take the next step, i say go for it dude.
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I think a big part of the decision is if she is still dependent on her parents. As long as they pay for everything they have every right to tell her what to do. If she is self sufficient I believe it should be up to her to decide, but I wouldn't hide it from her parents, sometimes honesty is the best policy, but I don't know her parents. 
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Originally Posted by AisforAustin Thank you, I will read it. You said family therapist? My family is going thru some tough stuff right now. Mainly my mom...we think it's midlife crisis, but idk... | I could probably get you some referrals in your area... PM me or something ... 
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If I were her, I'd take a moment to marvel at the novelty of boobies, THEN I would probably end up staying home with the 'rents.
At 19, one doesn't have extensive resources to sustain a fairly high quality of life by themselves, especially if she's in school and not able to work full time. This WILL put additional strain on your relationship.
Her best bet is to stay home for a few years more, take advantage of the whole food/shelter/cable TV/high speed internet/place to do laundry thing while she concentrates on school. Then, when you're both out of school and have full time jobs, I'd think about moving in.
Probably not what you want to hear, but just my .02
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I guess i should have read a bit clearer, if your living on campus...does that mean your 'rents already paid for you to stay in what i assume is a dorm or you have to front money out your own pocket every month for rent?
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