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- 11-06-12, 04:01 PM #356
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- 11-06-12, 04:31 PM #361
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- 11-06-12, 04:43 PM #365
Re: Forum Bullies
I am gonna leave you with a few plagiarized tips, from one of today's newspapers, and a suggestion.
12 tips to deal with a bully at
• Nip bullying
at workin the threads in the bud
• Don’t personalize this
Realize you might not be the only one being bullied by this person
at workin the threads.
Bullying is usually the issue of the bully but unfortunately if you are a recipient of this inappropriate behaviour you need to be alert and recognize the signs. Depending on the situation, there are different ways of responding to bullying.
• Establish your boundaries
If you feel like you're being bullied, take action.
You need to be aware of your own boundaries so you know how when a line is crossed and can choose to take appropriate response.
• Be courageous
Don't let a bully intimidate you.
Do not let the bully intimidate you. Their behaviour is wrong and you need to muster up your own courage and conviction to deal with this effectively. Sometimes reflecting this courage with professionalism and restraint can deter the bully if they think you won’t ‘buy in’ to their tactics. Unfortunately, they may move on to another target.
• Engage assertively but carefully and professionally
Let a bully know their behaviour is unacceptable.
Have a direct conversation with the bully first and let them know when their behaviour is unacceptable. Sometimes standing up confidently and professionally might deter further bullying (but they may seek another target). Never stoop to their level – do not ‘bully back’!
• Document everything
Write down all bullying incidents
As much as possible keep a written record of communications, events, e-mails and so on. If necessary, pull out your
iPhoneBlackBerry or other video or tape recording device in a meeting with the bully and record any threatening interchanges. Take notes after the meetings including time, date, incident and witnesses. When it’s time to escalate the situation you will need to show the history. And if the bully does something to put your careerposting in jeopardy, your records will help protect you.
• Remind the bully about
workplaceCrackBerry Forum policies
Let the bully know about the company's policies against bullying
Remind the bully that the
organizationForum has anti-harassment and anti-discrimination policies and if they do not stop their bullying behaviour that you will make a claim to the organizationForum officials.
• Stand up to the bully
Sometimes a bully will back down when someone stands up to him or her
Like bullies in the school yard, bullies in the
workplaceforums will usually stand down when confronted by someone they are trying to bully. Bullies usually only pick on people that they think that they can get away with it. Directly confront the bully, but not in a way that addresses how it makes you feel. Assertively and very directly, tell the person to stop with the negative language. Tell them their behaviour offers no value and to stop. An assertive, boarding on aggressive, approach can stop a bully in their tracks. Staff should not hesitate to say no to the intimidating behaviour and state that they will not tolerate such behaviour.
• Escalate when necessary
If the bullying continues, report the bully to the appropriate
organizationforum officials – HR or anti-harassment officer and your boss(only if he/she is not the bully). Know that you are likely not alone. The bully is likely bullying other staff in the workplaces in the forum.
• Contact the manners police if necessary
If it's bad enough, let the manners police know.
If the bully is threatening bodily harm or attacks you then report it to the manners police. Fill out an incident report that will also go to
• Seek support and get counselling
You don't need to deal with bullying alone
If you notice others being bullied by this individual reach out to support each other and stand in unison. Encourage staff members who have been threatened or bullied to seek support from counsellors from the
company’s EAP (employee assistanct program) or EFAP programmanners police if they are having on-going anxiety or mental health issues as a result of the incidents
• Encourage education at your
workplaceforums you frequent
work forceposters about workplace bullying
organizationforums to provide seminars on dealing with bullies in the workplacethreads including education on the appropriate company or organizationforum policies and procedures – for example, anti-harassment and anti-discrimination. If the companyforums does not have the policies encourage them to create them and bring in guest speakers and experts on bullying and/or creating a respectful workplace to speak to the organization /company.
CompaniesCrackberrians: Deal with bullies promptly
CompaniesForums need to be on the lookout for bullies at work
Organizations and companiesForums need to deal quickly with bullies in the workplace. Bullies need to know that their actions will not be tolerated and if they continue then they will be in jeopardy of losing their jobvital organs. They also need to know that their interactions with staff and clientsposters will be closely monitored until they can display appropriate behaviour and interaction with others. Bullies should also be referred to anger management and respectful workplaceposting seminars. They need to learn the impact and the consequences of their inappropriate behaviours. Referral to a n EAP/EFAP counsellorbartender is often appropriate since bullies often have been bullied themselves and have a number of confidence and mental health issues to resolve themselves.
My suggestion is to create a "Psycho Ward" section where you "enter at your own risk" and discuss till you're blue/red in the face.
- 11-06-12, 04:49 PM #366
- 11-06-12, 05:11 PM #368
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Re: Forum Bullies
This is what I said when I started the thread:
"I cant help noticing since coming back that there's a group of people treating this forum as their personal playground and seem to bully everybody that hold a different opinion then them"
Now if this thread is not used as a personal playground right now then what is?
Call me crazy.
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