go to options>about. Your version will be 4.X.0.XX. As for upgrading, the fact that you had to ask how to find the os version tells me you're not ready to tackle this. The update most people speak of here is either a beta or intended for non-USA providers and have been tweaked to make work. Get to know your phone first. The official 4.5 will be out soon.
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