BES is used to connect to your companies servers. If you are on your own then you use the providers BIS website to setup your BB. Here is Verizons: https://bis.na.blackberry.com/html?brand=vzw
I hope this helps
I use the owa for my curve. It won't be direct push (meaning u get it instantly). My underdstanding is that every 10-15 min your berry scans the exchange server and grabs all emails. I'm on bis and this works for me to get my work email.
To get it instantly, setup a rule in outlook to autoforward all your mail to your berry email address. This will be almost instantaneous as that address is direct push.
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