ur buddy is probably using a today theme. when u scroll over calander the tasks/notifications come up right on the home screen. Using a default theme you dont have that option. Im using natemz ammpd theme, it has option ur looking for, free and a OTA download! Good luck!
I did a power search, but I came up empty handed with this one.
My buddy's Tour always displays his calendar/task notification icons with no problems. My Tour, well thats a different story.
I checked both Tour settings, and there is nothing differently check off. Is this a bug, or am I missing something.
You might want to check which calendar you have set as the default calendar. My Tour acts up if I don't have the right default calendar set and I try to sync anything. Making BES calendar and Google Calendar work together is a bit of a pain...