View Poll Results: Responsible Parents: Is it ethical to steal ur teenage sons PlayBook Dashboard Mount?
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Yes - As Responsible Parents we have to look out for our teenage kids
No - Let him run his own life and don't try to interfere
Try to explain the dangers to him, and then take it away
Dont know what you should do
Every parent should deal with it how ever they feel is right
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Responsible Parents: Is it ethical to steal ur teenage sons PlayBook Dashboard Mount?
Last week my nephew got caught in an accident because he was driving and playing with his PlayBook, thanks god they got away with only monetary damages, and nothing serious happened.
My teenage son has his PlayBook on a dashboard mount, and as a responsible parent i'm looking for an app that blocks him from using his playbook while driving.
But for the meanwhile, after my brother told me this story, as a responsible parent i took away the dashboard mount from my son.
Do you think i did the right thing?
- CrackBerry Master
04-03-12, 11:19 PM #2
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my friend always said "be a parent first and a friend last".
if you think your child is foolish enough to try it then take it away but if you think you raised him well enough then dont.
ooo I feel like dr. phil
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Last edited by phoreoneone; 04-04-12 at 01:32 AM.
- 04-03-12, 11:36 PM #6
If your son is old enough to be driving, I hope he's mature enough to be sensible about this. With that in mind, I see two extra options as missing (not expecting both to be used):
1. Discuss this with him until you reach consensus on a safe form of use.
2. Take away his car keys (assuming it's your car).
Basically, if this isn't something you can work out in mature discussion with him, I don't understand why you're even letting him do something as dangerous as driving if you have any control over that. And, if you don't have control over that, it doesn't seem to me you have any right to take away his PlayBook mount either...
- 04-04-12, 12:00 AM #9
I think you did the right thing taking the mount away. I would actually suggest this for any 7" windshield-mounted device. A 7" void of forward viewing area in a vehicle is quite a lot, and can be more or less severe depending on the vehicle.
A GPS doesn't do much good in getting you to a destination if it's blocking a car that's pulling out in front of you. The best place I've found for small devices is as far left and low on the windshield as possible. (Low and right for those driving on the wrong side of the road )
That's my $.02, happy travels.
- 04-04-12, 12:16 AM #11
I was gonna go bezerk if the OP were a teenager complaining that their parent took away their dashboard mount :P On that note, OP did the right thing. No doubt about it.
Last edited by bbqkid8; 04-04-12 at 05:30 PM.
- CrackBerry Abuser
04-04-12, 12:42 AM #13
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My 2 cents, "stealing" a distractive item that threatens your sons safety is ethically sound so long as you have reasonable doubt that he is incapable of self control on the road.
- 04-04-12, 12:55 AM #14
Prepare the child for the path - not the path for the child.
The best possible outcome is to work with your child all along (since childhood, way, way before he/she is a teenager) all the while during development so that you have the opportunity to help this young, maturing man to comprehend the ramifications and remove it himself vs. you stepping in and doing it for him. "Stealing" it isn't the right approach. Removing it is. As the heavy, you have the right to do so (remove it), but, that isn't where you begin.
Since earning the child's respect over years of parental involvement and investing tremendous parental energy and love, you should see this as yet another opportunity to teach and instruct instead of yanking it out. Again, maybe that is where you end up, but, if you lead him into the thought process correctly, I'm sure you can convince him to do the right thing and remove it himself.
That would be the safest, most effective outcome for him, his passengers, and other motorists. If he cannot make the decision for himself after you work together, time to step in and be the adult.
- 04-04-12, 05:56 AM #19
The fact your teenage son would even be looking at a tablet while driving is cause for concern. Sit down your kid and explain statistics and probability theory make your son a candidate for an early death behind the wheel of a motor vehicle or the reason another person looses their life. Their only function when behind the wheel is to focus on the safe operation of the motor vehicle. If he balks, arrange a visit to the morgue to view the carnage of a motor vehicle collision involving the death of multiple teenagers. If that fails to scare him into reality, take away his driving privileges and his license.
- 04-04-12, 06:05 AM #20
Your #1 priority is the safety of your loved ones. Mine is the safety of mine. I would prefer that all drivers focus on the roadway while driving, not for their safety, but for the safety of my loved ones. I say take it away.
- 04-04-12, 07:58 AM #21
I think you should discuss it with him and take it away. But make sure he's not trying to use it without the mount, that would be even worse. As in holding it in one hand and driving with his knees while searching for a song. Hopefully removing the mount will remove the urge to use it while driving all together.
- CrackBerry Genius
04-04-12, 08:31 AM #24
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Since when in history did parenting come down to what every one else would do and not what the parent thinks is right for his/her child?
Anything in the car that's a distraction is putting your own and others around them in serious danger. There's a reason why cell phones, GPS devices, and other handheld devices are prohibited from use when behind the wheel in many states.
Should the OP have "stole" the mount? Probably not, but he/she should sit down with their child and explain the dangers of using any device behind the wheel. Whether they take the mount or not, that will not stop them from using the device. At least with a mount the device isn't sliding around, and the driver isn't trying to stop it from sliding around all the time taking their eyes off the road.
- 04-04-12, 08:48 AM #25
did the wrong thing. Have you tried, convicted, and sentenced the correct person? As far as I can tell your son has done nothing wrong yet his being sentenced on what could happen.
Do we remove the keys on the possibility of him speeding?
Parenting is not easy, thankfully mine are only 4, 2 and 6 months! :-)